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The Beauty of Resentment

Published on 18th October 2017

There were times, in my clueless days, when I wore my stamp of rejection with pride. I’m not talking about my being rejected, I’m talking about me rejecting anything or anyone who didn’t fit in with my idea of “appropriate.” You know those people, right? The ones that you turn your nose up at because they rejected you first? The ones you gossip about and say, essentially, “I didn’t want to be a part of their stinky old club anyway!”

Like most kids and teenagers, I dealt with my share of peer pressure and worrying about being popular. Then, as a young adult, I followed a familiar societal pattern and became somewhat of a rebel.

Once I was aware that disapproval was an effective tool for helping me to feel superior, I handed it out quite freely. I offered what I labeled as helpful “instruction” to friends and family members whose viewpoints I deemed as misguided. I know now that these judgments I was constantly making were my weapons against self-examination.

Why Do We Resist Self-Examination?

Many of us silently point fingers, judging others for the choices they make.

Because, rather than a stroll down the easy street of disapproving glances, self-examination requires digging deep into our “inner muck” with all of our might and getting truly honest about why we feel disdain or resistance towards something. This is tough stuff because, well…

In many instances, the truth really does hurt; sometimes we may have to admit that we’re resentful because we secretly envy another’s circumstances or things. And that's hard.

But, we must check in with ourselves regularly and stay aware of our true motives and reactions because it is crucial to getting past our resentments. A simple Google search will confirm that avoiding repressed feelings can be extremely stressful and detrimental to your health. So, the payoff for doing this type of self-healing work is not only being able to achieve peace of mind, but it may also help you prolong your life.

So, Why Again is Resentment, Jealousy and Rejection So Beautiful?

Because when you’re feeling resentful or jealous of someone or something, you get to ask yourself why you feel that way and whether the reasons really matter in the big picture. You get to examine parts of yourself that perhaps you need to improve upon. You get to call on yourself for complete honesty and if you step up to the plate, you may just find that you experience new levels of emotional and spiritual growth.

Most of all, when you find yourself rejecting a new idea or person, you get the amazing opportunity to put into practice all that you’ve learned about forgiveness and unconditional love.

And what’s more beautiful than that?